Understanding the Decision: Why Some Moms Choose Stay-at-Home or Work-from-Home Roles
Housewifery isn't just a term; it is a full-time job, demanding the finest of skills and dedication to make it successful. Not everyone possesses the talent or desire to perform it to its highest potential. In the earlier years of my marriage, I juggled between working outside the home and managing a household, a demanding task at times. I found myself less satisfied with my housework and my husband did too. However, when I combined my cleaning and cooking duties around my work schedule, I ended up being more satisfied and even became a better housewife.
The decision to stay-at-home or work-at-home is based on personal choices and experiences. It's disingenuous to criticize anyone for their life choices. In a world that no longer exists in the ‘cookie-cutter’ mold, it is essential to support women and men in making these decisions and embracing either path.
Here are several scenarios from my close-knit community of highly qualified women to understand their reasons for choosing to stay-at-home or work-from-home:
Case 1: Immigrated Husband and Career Adjustment
A highly qualified Ph.D. who was faced with the challenge of her husband immigrating to another country. Unable to find a job that matched her qualifications, she chose to stay at home. This case highlights the challenges immigrants face, especially when it comes to employment and career fitting.
Case 2: Lack of Support from Spouse
Another highly qualified Ph.D. worked for a few years but found that her husband did not help in housework. Despite her efforts in managing both her professional and domestic duties, she eventually decided to quit when she realized that she wasn't getting support from her spouse. This scenario underscores the importance of mutual support in families.
Case 3: Work-Life Strain and Family Support
A highly educated Master’s graduate worked tirelessly to support her family. Her job was extremely demanding, and her mother-in-law constantly reminded her that she was not helping with household chores. Even though she worked from 7am to 7pm and was available to support her children with homework, the stress led to a major burnout. This case illustrates the strain that can come from demanding work environments and the importance of family support.
Case 4: Part-Time Work and Financial Security
A law graduate with a very well-off husband who doesn't need to work for money but opts to take on part-time assignments. This choice shows a difference in priorities regarding career fulfillment and financial security. While her spouse is financially secure, she finds satisfaction in part-time work.
Conclusion
Ultimately, the reasons for some moms choosing stay-at-home or work-from-home roles vary widely. Factors such as personal ability, financial security, career fulfillment, and family support play a pivotal role. It's important to respect and support these choices, recognizing that each person's journey is unique. Whether one decides to stay at home or work-from-home, their path should be honored and celebrated.