Why I Dislike Being Photographed Yet Enjoy Taking Photos
Many people have had negative experiences with having their picture taken by inconsiderate photographers. While it might seem harsh, the reality is that most people can take decent photos if they are mindful and considerate. For me, dealing with photographers who don't respect their subjects often leads to my pet peeve. Yet, I find immense satisfaction in taking photos myself, especially landscapes and wildlife, where candid shots play a significant role. This article dives into the reasons behind my mixed feelings about being photographed and enjoying photography.
Self-Perception and Control
The discomfort I feel when being photographed can be traced back to issues of self-perception and control. Often, the images I see of myself do not align with my internal self-image. As an example, I frequently take photos for friends on my phone, always trying to ensure they don't appear fat, disfigured, or lopsided. There is a pervasive feeling of insecurity or dissatisfaction when such imperfections occur, which is a common problem among those who dislike having their photos taken.
When it comes to taking photos, there is a sense of empowerment through control. You can dictate the composition, lighting, and subject matter, making the process engaging and creative. On the other hand, being the subject of a photo often means giving up that control, which can be unsettling. This lack of control can lead to tension and anxiety, making the resulting photos feel less authentic.
Vulnerability and Preference
Being in front of the camera can feel inherently vulnerable or exposed. This vulnerability can be mitigated when you are the one in control and taking the photos. Additionally, social pressure to look a certain way or perform for the camera can compound this sense of vulnerability. Meanwhile, being a photographer allows you to observe and capture moments without being at the center of attention, which can be liberating.
Artistic satisfaction is another significant factor. Photography can be a creative outlet, an opportunity to capture and preserve moments, scenes, or emotions. The act of creating an image can be deeply fulfilling. Conversely, having your image captured can be less satisfying if the focus is on the final result rather than the process. I find this divide particularly pronounced in posed photos where the pressure to be perfect can be overwhelming.
Personal Experience and Preference
I personally hate posing for photos as it makes me tensed up, and I often look "fake" or not photogenic. The few candid photos that I have managed to take are the ones that look acceptable. As an amateur photographer, I have developed a preference for taking photos, particularly of landscapes and wildlife. When I do capture photos of people, it is usually in a candid manner, and any photos I think the subject might not feel flattered by are immediately discarded.
Understanding these feelings can help navigate the experiences with photography more comfortably. Whether you dislike being photographed or enjoy taking photos, recognizing the underlying reasons can empower you to make the most out of your photography journey. By embracing the art of photography, you can find joy in the process and create images that resonate with you and your subjects.