What Type of Formal Wear is Appropriate for a Mormon Funeral Service?

The question of what to wear to a Mormon funeral can be a bit confusing. Unlike some other religious traditions, there are no strict guidelines on attire for a Mormon funeral service. The key is to dress respectfully and in a way that feels appropriate based on the mood and context of the event.

Defining the Appropriate Attire

While formal wear is not the hallmark of a Mormon funeral, the crucial factor is to dress respectfully. The funeral service is a solemn occasion meant to honor the memory of the deceased, and wearing clothes that make you feel at ease can help you focus on the purpose of the event. For many, the simplest approach is to wear what you would typically wear for any funeral.

Common Attire Choices

For Protestant individuals who may have grown up with certain expectations, the idea of wearing formal or black attire might come naturally. In my experience, however, as a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, I’ve observed that many members choose to follow a more traditional dress code similar to what they wear on Sunday services.

Many Latter-day Saints may opt for a dark-colored suit, sweater, or a neutral two-piece ensemble. The traditional preference in the past has been to avoid black, reflecting a deeper respect for the departed soul. This custom was especially observed by Brigham Young, who requested the women of the church not wear black at his funeral. Today, most members choose to wear what they would normally wear on a Sunday service, which can include a dark-colored suit, a blouse, or a dark dress.

Adapting to the Mood of the Service

It’s important to note that the level of formality can also depend on the personality and preferences of the deceased. If the funeral is intended to celebrate the life of the departed loved one, more cheerful and colorful attire can be fitting. For instance, at the funeral of my cousin's first son, who died of SIDS, my family opted for brightly colored clothes to honor the celebration of his life. However, these choices were unique to us and not the norm observed by the rest of the congregation.

Attending the Funeral

Even if the funeral is for someone who lived a long life and can be celebrated rather than mourned, it is important to dress conservatively. The funeral is a time to show respect and honor, not a place to wear casual or revealing clothing. If you are unsure, opt for dark clothing or more conservative attire. The key is to avoid anything that might draw attention away from the purpose of the event.

General Tips for Proper Attire

Here are some general tips to consider:

Choose dark or neutral colors like black, navy, or gray as safe options.

Consider wearing a suit or dress that feels professional but not overly formal.

Avoid anything too casual, like jeans or sneakers, unless it’s a casual funeral.

Wear a comfortable dress or suit that allows you to sit and stand for extended periods.

Ensure your appearance is clean and presentable; a well-groomed look shows you have respect for the deceased and their family.

Ultimately, the most important thing is to dress in a way that respects the deceased and shows your support to the family. The specific attire can vary widely, but the underlying message of respect and reverence should remain constant.