Why Do I HATE Physical Contact?

Understanding Your Feelings

Talking to a mental health professional may shed some light on your reason for feeling so. This article aims to address the root causes behind a common discomfort with physical contact and offer steps for managing these feelings effectively.

Positive or Negative Emotions Associated with Physical Contact

Of all the five senses, touch carries with it the most obvious positive or negative emotion, often involving another person. How we feel about the person doing the touching reflects which emotion we are pulling toward. Past experiences play a significant role in predicting current responses, and our mood usually determines whether we want or do not want physical contact to happen.

Reasons Behind Discomfort with Physical Contact

Experiencing Trauma: Someone who has experienced trauma, especially in the form of physical violence or unwanted physical contact, may develop a heightened sensitivity to physical touch as a result. Anxiety or Depression: Individuals who experience anxiety or depression may find physical touch overwhelming and triggering, which could be the cause of avoidance. Body Image Issues: For some people, physical touch can trigger feelings of discomfort or shame around their bodies. Sensory Processing Issues: People with sensory processing issues may find certain types of physical contact especially uncomfortable. This is particularly true for individuals with conditions like autism or sensory disorder.

Someone who doesn’t like physical touch may have experienced metaphysical touch, such as an energetic connection, and found it to be more comfortable and less invasive.

Feeling Unsafe and its Causes

You might be feeling unsafe, not just with the person, but even with yourself. Perhaps, during your upbringing, touch was not given in a loving, benevolent way. Perhaps you need to like yourself more to believe you are worthy of affection. These are just speculations on my part.

Take some time to look inward. If, after introspection, you still cannot figure out the underlying reasons, consider consulting with a professional therapist who can provide you with the support and guidance you need.

Managing Your Feelings

If you are someone who does not like physical contact, it does not mean you need to stress over it. There are several ways you can manage these feelings:

Set clear boundaries: It is completely valid to set boundaries and allow only those whom you trust and are comfortable with to approach you for physical contact. Self-care: Work on building self-esteem and body confidence. Engaging in activities that boost your self-esteem and body positivity can help. Seek professional help: Therapists and counselors can provide you with the tools and techniques to cope with and manage your discomfort.

Remember, it is your right to refuse physical contact, and it is important to prioritize your comfort and well-being. By taking these steps, you can better understand and manage your feelings of discomfort with physical contact.