What Does It Feel Like to Be an Only Child?

Often, the idea of being an only child is romanticized, but it is definitely not all it is cracked up to be. I am my mother’s only child, and while we have a better relationship due to the close connection we have, being the only child comes with its own set of unique challenges.

Social Impairment and Lack of Social Skills

At a young age, I used to play with my mother since I didn't have anyone of my own age to play with. It was no big deal back then, but as I grew older, I realized the profound impact it had on me. My social skills were lacking, particularly with peers my age. Spending more time around adults might have made me more mature than most of my peers, but it also made it difficult for me to form friendships. I am now 15 years old and although I enjoy my independence, I still don’t have many friends due to my lack of social skills. While I don’t mind this as much because being alone is one less source of stress, sometimes the attention I receive just adds to my loneliness.

Loneliness: A Common Experience for Only Children

Loneliness is a common challenge faced by only children. Although I appreciate my independence and the close relationships I have with family members, there is a deep sense of loneliness in knowing that I am all alone. There is no one to share deep secrets with, and at home, I am alone. Furthermore, as someone who has never had a sibling or nieces or nephews, I miss out on the profound bond that siblings share. Watching my cousins, I see a genuine connection between them that is unexplainable and something I will have to miss out on.

Concerns About Mother's Health

Being the only child also means having to worry about my mother's health more than most. She is the only person I have, and if something were to happen to her, I would truly be alone. While I love being the only child despite the discomforts, it would be nice to have a sibling to share the experience with.

Appreciation for Siblings

If what I have described resonates with you and you have siblings, take care of them. As siblings are your forever best friends, and you truly have no one else.

The journey of being an only child can bring its own set of unique challenges, but it is important to recognize that many only children also have their own special experiences and joys. While lonely at times, the close bond with loved ones provides a unique perspective on life.