The Unseen Gems: Gentle Reflections on Self and Friendship
It is easy to overlook the positive aspects of our lives, getting lost in the negativity and forgetfulness of day-to-day experiences. Yet, reflections on these moments, especially those shared by loved ones, can offer profound insights into ourselves. One particular memory stands out in my mind: a comment by my brother that I am a strong man, willing to give the shirt off my back for another. This lesson has stayed with me, a testament to the value of such affirmations in our lives.
While we often dwell on negatives, it is crucial to remember the positive moments that shape us, especially when they are recognized by close friends and family. Moments like dancing in an empty house with my ex-wife, watching my little brother get baptized, or simply connecting with people who see beyond the surface, hold immense significance.
Another profound lesson I have learned is the importance of self-care. Many people around me have commended me on taking care of myself, but I have always attributed it to listening to God’s instruction and following a path laid out in His book. God's generosity in guiding us towards better self-care practices is often overlooked, but their impact is undeniable.
The journey of self-discovery is ongoing, and this includes learning to live alone. There is strength in solitude and in the ability to navigate life independently, regardless of one's health or abilities. It is vital to acknowledge that seeking help when necessary is not a sign of weakness, but a demonstration of self-awareness and resilience.
My experiences with friendship have taught me that relationships are complex and require careful consideration. My attitude towards friendship is akin to a late-blooming flower or onion; patience and depth are essential. Each person is multi-dimensional, and it is important to see them in all their complexity. I am selective in my friendships, valuing quality over quantity. Having one deep, meaningful friend is satisfactory, and I am content both in solitude and in the company of others.
Ultimately, friendship to me is about sharing a meaningful connection and embracing the unknown together. We do not need to agree on everything or share the same values to have a strong bond. Instead, openness to each other's perspectives and willingness to explore the world together are key.
The journey of self-discovery and the importance of meaningful relationships continue to enrich my life. By reflecting on these gentle reflections, we can better cherish the moments that shape us and grow into the best versions of ourselves.