The Fear of Loneliness: Why We Need to Embrace Being Alone
Why are so many people afraid of loneliness? Aren't we all inherently alone at times, and sometimes, being alone can be the best thing to find ourselves and connect with our inner selves?
Today, we are always busy and preoccupied with virtual things like social media, often neglecting to spend time with ourselves. However, when you learn to enjoy your own company and enjoy solitude, you will be the happiest person, because in today's world, many people depend on others for their happiness while overlooking themselves.
Understanding the Fear of Loneliness
The fear of being alone is innate and, in essence, is a fear of death. Human babies are among the neediest, most dependent, and vulnerable mammals. They are in dire need of a parent for survival for many years. Just look at a baby elephant, which can walk shortly after birth! This inherent dependency on a parent has bred in humans the fear of being alone, which persists even as we grow.
Cultures often reinforce the need for socialization, as humans are inherently social and part of tribes. For centuries, being alone or single has not been viewed positively; it is often seen as undesirable, an outcast, or even having issues. However, being alone is not the same as loneliness. While loneliness is the lack of meaningful connections, one can be alone and not feel lonely, especially in a big crowd or during family gatherings, if meaningful connections are absent.
Becoming Comfortable with Solitude
The fear of loneliness can be overwhelming, but it is a challenge that can be overcome with time. Meditation is a powerful tool that can help. Try meditating for 10-15 minutes a day, and over time, you will find yourself feeling better equipped to handle being alone. Meditation can help you understand and embrace solitude, leading to a happier and more fulfilled life.
Perhaps people have become too dependent on others for companionship and care. The solution is to learn to take care of ourselves and find joy in our own company. This shift in mindset can be transformative, allowing us to appreciate the value of solitude in our lives.
Conclusion
It is time to accept and appreciate the value of being alone. While the fear of loneliness is deeply rooted in our psyche, it is something we can learn to overcome. Embracing solitude can lead to a greater sense of self and ultimately, a happier life. So, the next time you feel the need to be with others, take a moment to explore the beauty of being alone.