The Evolution of Tolerance and Forgiveness in Older Age: A Personal Reflection
As I celebrate my 63rd birthday, I find myself reflecting on the changes that come with age. In many ways, I am more tolerant and patient. Gone are the days when I let anger or frustration dictate my actions, yet some issues continue to anger me deeply. This personal journey led me to question whether, as I age, I would start to accept everything or forgive past mistakes more easily.
Learning Tolerance and Acceptance
As we age, many of us do indeed become more tolerant and accepting. I have come to realize that getting angry or frustrated only hurts me. For instance, the realization that my life will come to an end within the next two decades is an acceptance I have made. Furthermore, acknowledging that despite our disagreements, we are all part of this world fosters a deeper sense of unity and compassion.
There are aspects of life that we cannot control, yet we must accept. The hubris of humanity and the stubborn refusal to acknowledge inconvenient truths are battles I hope to wage until my last breath. It is crucial to strive for a sustainable world for future generations, and I will not accept a reality where we fail to address these critical issues.
A Deepening Sense of Anger
Interestingly, while some rough surfaces have smoothed out, my anger about more serious political issues has intensified. This is particularly evident in issues such as male politicians limiting women's access to birth control and abortion, the fear and xenophobia towards Hispanics, and the glorification of war. The complexity of these issues, and the far-reaching consequences they have, sharpen my resolve to fight against them.
Forgiveness vs. Embracing Mistakes
While forgiving past mistakes can be challenging, I believe it is essential to embrace our errors. Each mistake, whether it caused pain or led to success, has contributed to who I am today. It is through these experiences that I have grown and continue to grow.
Shame and sadness coexist with the regret of past errors, while success and gratitude fill me when outcomes have been positive. Yet, it is the sum of these experiences that defines me. As I age, I have learned to accept and even embrace each part of my journey. It is like walking a path, and the imperfections make each step unique and valuable.
Seeking Enlightenment and Wisdom
Ultimately, my goal is to follow my heart and grow every day. I acknowledge that I am far from reaching enlightenment, but the journey itself is the most significant part. I am grateful for the life I have lived and the experiences that have shaped me.
To the younger generation, I hesitate to give advice, as each individual's path is unique. However, I urge you not to be swayed by media narratives that trivialize important issues. Movements like Occupy Wall Street highlight the interconnected nature of society and the complex challenges we face. Embracing such movements and fighting for a better future is crucial.
By taking action and working towards positive change, we can heal the heart of democracy and create a world that is more equitable and sustainable for all.