The Dilemma of Authenticity in Social Relations: Lies, Deception, and Long-Term Success

Everyone claims to detest falsehood. So why do false people, who avoid exposing themselves or lying, often thrive in social relationships, while those who tell the truth struggle? This article explores the intricate relationship between authenticity, social success, and the temporary nature of false alliances.

Exploring the Alignment Between Us and Our True Source

At its core, the most truthful alignment we can have is with ourselves and our true source. This is why we often value truthful connections and empathy. When someone’s experiences are similar to ours, it creates a deep sense of understanding and connection. However, when a person is in a state of ego and not in harmony with their true source, maintaining this alignment can be challenging. Distractions and external influences can make it difficult to stay true to ourselves.

When we are among many people, we engage in multilayered inner connections. Sometimes, the only way to maintain these connections is to adhere to social norms or what we call "lying" or "being fake." This is a way to stay in the social fold when our true alignment is lost.

The True Cost of Deception in Social Relationships

Deception, even minor lies to spare feelings, can lead to long-term problems. When someone lies about their abilities or connections, their social relationships may strain when their promises are not fulfilled. This dismantle the trust that underpins true social connection. Furthermore, the use of such lies to maintain superficial harmony can confuse individuals at the worst possible times.

Let us consider a scenario where someone uses minor white lies to avoid hurting someone's feelings. While this might seem harmless initially, as time goes on, these lies may begin to build up and eventually come back to haunt them. Social partners might eventually demand the truth and if the lies persist, the relationships can become strained. For example, if someone overstates their accomplishments or pretends to know influential people, this deception can backfire and weaken their social networks.

The Short-Term Gain and Long-Term Strain of Inauthentic Relationships

Deception often yields short-term success but can lead to long-term failure. While a person who lies may temporarily appear successful, their social relationships are based on lies that cannot hold up over time. If they cannot deliver on their promises or maintain their cover story, their social network will eventually crumble. This is why maintaining authenticity is crucial for long-term social stability and genuine connections.

In addition, those who engage in deception for personal gain, such as con artists or villains, often do not aim for long-term mutually beneficial relationships. Instead, they use others to achieve their goals and move on to the next target. This cycle of exploitation can create patterns in their behavior that are eventually noticed and lead to confrontation and the end of their temporary successes.

The Current Context: Lies and Deception in Today's Society

Today, the importance of authenticity is more critical than ever. We are witnessing the dire consequences of deception on a broader scale, particularly in politics and public life. In the US, for instance, there is a growing concern about the prevalence of deceit in leadership. It is crucial for society to understand that the temporary success of individuals who engage in deception will not endure.

The situation is especially urgent in 2019, where a prominent 'villain' is in charge, leading to a range of issues that impact the nation. This highlights the need for individuals to eschew deception and strive for integrity in their social and professional lives.

Conclusion

Ultimately, the most honest alignment is the one we have with ourselves and our true source. Seeking authenticity in social relationships is essential for genuine connections and long-term success. While deception might offer short-term gains, the consequences of these actions can be dire. We must cultivate honesty and integrity to build strong, lasting social relationships.