The Belief Behind Unreceived Christmas Gifts
Christmas is a time for joy, love, and giving. But what happens when your family members fail to show up for the festivities, leaving you with unwrapped and unused gifts? Is it a sign of disrespect, or is it more about their underlying beliefs and priorities?
Missing Family and Missing Gifts
Imagine the scenario where you've carefully selected and wrapped gifts for your family members, only for them to be no-shows. How should you handle these unopened presents? One approach is to invite them to pick the gifts up in person, but you don't need to offer food or drinks. If they continue to fail to show, it might be time to reassess your relationship and set new boundaries.
These unwrapped gifts are not a form of payment or a demand for attention. They are expressions of love and care. If you find that your family members consistently fail to attend, perhaps it's best to redirect your efforts through other means, such as the postal service. This way, the gifts can still reach them, fulfilling the spirit of giving.
The True Meaning of Giving
The heart is truly blessed not by receiving, but by giving. Encourage others to buy and give gifts purely out of love and kindness, not as an expectation for reciprocation. If the absentees miss a one-off event due to unforeseen circumstances like illness or car trouble, it's best to forgive and move forward. However, if it's a repeated behavior indicating a lack of value in your relationship, it might be wise to scale back or stop purchasing gifts altogether.
For many, the sentiment that "it is in giving rather than in receiving that the heart is blessed" resonates deeply. Whether it's sending gifts through the postal service or buying thoughtful, yet understated presents, the focus should always be on the act of giving rather than getting.
Practical Steps and Personal Experiences
Some families have made the choice to prioritize giving over receiving. As I share my personal experience, my wife and I have openly communicated that we don't desire any gifts for Christmas. It took her several years to fully understand this preference, but she occasionally still gets me something she thinks I need. However, for my parents, we have agreed to no gifts.
I'll still get them small, unassuming presents, such as a bottle of scotch, but if someone doesn't show up to receive a gift, it stays in my possession. If the gift is perishable, it might be consumed or shared with others, and I'll get that person another gift at a later time.
Ultimately, the belief behind these actions is rooted in love and respect for the gift-giving tradition. It's a reaffirmation of the true spirit of the holiday season.