Surprising Experiences as a Bartender: Insights Reflections

Unexpected Patterns in Customer Behavior

Honestly, the most surprising and depressing thing about working as a bartender for over 15 years was witnessing the large number of regulars who only stayed in the bar during opening and closing hours—9 AM to 11 PM. What followed was even more disheartening: these same people would leave and head to another bar to continue their drinking. It became evident that the bar scene was often a continuous cycle of movement from one establishment to another.

Enduring Friendships

Despite the routine and often challenging aspects of my role, I have also found great joy and companionship through the bartender community. Over the years, I have formed some of my most enduring friendships. Typically, bartenders form a close-knit and supportive community, looking out for each other. This camaraderie is a stark contrast to the sometimes immature behavior seen in neighborhood bars, where patrons can exhibit grown children-like behavior day in and day out.

A Daycare for Grown-Ups

On one occasion, while preparing for my shift, I was overwhelmed by a vivid hallucination. I saw adults sitting on bar stools, nursing beers just like in a daycare center, dressed in diapers and swaddled in swaddling clothing. This vivid and disturbing image forced me to question my own perception and promptly leave the establishment. It was a defining moment that underscored the importance of maintaining one's integrity and professionalism even in challenging work environments.

Shift Influence on Social Life

The long hours required in the bartending industry significantly impacted my social life. Friends who wanted to have dinner together often found it difficult as I was unavailable during most evening hours. However, the flexibility of having lunch together remained, making it easier to maintain these friendships.

Economic Realities and Bartender Behavior

Another surprising discovery was the economics of the bar industry. Wholesalers often sell spirits at very low prices; a 100-bottle crate of whiskey could cost just $20 to a bar or restaurant. This low cost is recuperated through the sale of small portions of cocktails. Additionally, many establishments encourage bartenders to partake in drinks with customers, which can create a unique dynamic in the workplace.

In summary, life as a bartender has been filled with surprising experiences that range from the mundane to the deeply moving. These insights provide a deeper understanding of the industry and the individuals who work within it.