Solo Surgery: Navigating the Comfort Zone

Have you ever gone into surgery alone? This can be an extremely daunting experience, as demonstrated by these personal accounts. As I reflect on my own journeys through surgery, I realized the impact of being alone during such a life-changing procedure.

2020: A Solo Emergency Hysterectomy

During the full force of the pandemic in 2020, I underwent an emergency hysterectomy. The experience was awful and creepy, especially in the quiet and empty hospital halls which reminded me of 1980s horror movies. Fast forward to next week, I am facing a total hip replacement alone, despite my efforts to find a ride. Working on home health is less than ideal. Previously, I had care lined up, but that fell through.

I am a tough, 52-year-old woman who is determined and very independent. However, this upcoming surgery scares the crap out of me. I’m putting all my faith in God for this ride. Above all, this experience highlights the critical importance of having support during times of vulnerability.

A Seeker for Companionship During Surgery

As I underwent a wrist surgery a week later, I again found myself alone. The surgery was painful, and I wished I had someone with me. My cousin eventually came to pick me up, but the experience stayed with me. When my mom required surgery, I initially felt bad about not being with her, despite being expected to do so. Years later, I insisted on waiting with my mother after her surgery, despite the long wait times. That incident brought to light the importance of support for the person who came before.

The Guilt of Post-Loss Surgery

Shortly after losing my mother, I made my way back to the same hospital for my surgery. This time, my sister was with me. Fortunately, the waiting area was spacious, preventing me from revisiting the earlier, more difficult spots. These experiences underscore the complex emotions one can face during and after major surgery.

Key Strategies for Solo Surgery Patients

Whether you find yourself in a similar situation, here are some strategies to help navigate the process:

Preventative Planning: Consider ways to secure someone to be with you. Options include family members, friends, or a professional health aide. Support System: Have a support system in place. This can be a close friend, family member, or even a community support group. Stay Informed: Educate yourself about the surgery, the process, and what to expect. Knowledge can empower you and ease anxiety. Stay Connected: Keep in touch with your support system and healthcare team. Communication is key to navigating the complexities of the surgery and recovery. Post-Surgery: Plan for the aftercare period. This could involve home health services or continued support from friends or family.

Conclusion

Being alone during surgery can be overwhelming, but with the right strategies and support, you can navigate this challenging time with greater confidence and peace of mind. These experiences teach us the importance of having support not just during but even after surgery. Remember, you are not alone, and there is always help available.