Reflections on Growing Old: A Journey of Surprises
As I look back on my life journey, I am constantly surprised by the unpredictability of growing older. This process, which seemed so meticulously planned in the past, now feels like a crap shoot. The passage of time has led me to conclude that a flexible plan is essential to navigate both the eventualities of death and the unknowns of longevity.
A Plan for Both Scenarios
Contemplating my future, I realize that whatever plans I make must cover both eventualities. If I manage to last another twenty years, I must save my money, take care of my health, and ensure a balanced diet and exercise routine. On the other hand, if I knew I would die in a week, I would spend every penny on indulgences and live life to the fullest, without any regrets.
So, what kind of plan can cater to both scenarios? I do not want to spend my golden years with a depleted bank account or in ill-health. Conversely, I also do not want to die with a fortune and nothing but working memories and austerity in my life.
What is truly impossible is finding a balance between the two. As Leonardo DiCaprio once said, 'Some things you can't plan for, but you have to accept. Some things you can plan for, but can't control.'
Personal Discoveries on the Journey of Aging
From a young age, I got married early, and the passage of time has shown me how quickly this milestone can turn into a lifelong commitment. My experiences have taught me valuable lessons about aging and the unexpected twists that life throws at us. Here are some personal discoveries I have made on this journey.
Your Skin Doesn't Get Better
As one grows older, the skin is a constant reminder of the passage of time. Wrinkles and zits may seem like unwanted guests, but they are a natural part of the aging process. The denial phase is a common reaction, but it's time to learn to coexist with these signs of aging.
Things Don't Simply Happen
When it comes to advancing in your career or improving your financial situation, things don't happen magically. If you want a raise at work, you need to ask for it. This realization has taught me the importance of actively seeking what I want in life. People are not mind readers; they expect you to communicate your desires.
People Surprise You
One of the most surprising aspects of aging is the realization that people often surprise you. Those you thought would be incredibly loyal may eventually let you down, while those you expected to harm you may turn out to be your greatest allies. This unpredictability can be both joyful and challenging.
Figuring Out Insurance
Insurance can be a complex and frustrating topic. I still struggle to understand concepts like deductibles, but I am continuously learning and improving my knowledge. This highlights the importance of staying informed and proactive about your financial health.
Money Goes to Un-Fun Things
As I have grown older, money now goes towards more serious expenses such as car payments, student loans, and credit card bills. These costs can be overwhelming, and the concept of fun money has become a distant memory.
Age and Binge Drinking
Alcohol tolerance decreases with age, making it increasingly difficult to enjoy excessive drinking without consequences. While I once scoffed at my coworkers' warnings about the effects of alcohol, I now find that even a few glasses of wine leave me feeling ill the next morning.
Feeling Both Young and Old at Once
Another surprising aspect of aging is the coexistence of feeling incredibly young and old simultaneously. There is a struggle to reconcile these conflicting emotions and embrace the change within oneself.
Appreciating Your Parents
As I have grown older, I have come to appreciate my parents' efforts and contributions more. This newfound gratitude has led many of my friends to move back to their hometowns to be near their families.
Sleeping Patterns Change
It is no longer fashionable to stay up past midnight. In fact, it has become a luxury to wake up at 1 AM. This change in sleep patterns highlights the importance of recognizing one's body's natural rhythms as one ages.
Skincare and Fragility
Apart from the need for skincare products like eye cream and moisturizers, it has become more important to take care of oneself for the sake of looking and feeling younger for as long as possible. My wife's shift from high heels to Uggs and flats is a testament to this shift in priorities as we age.
Brunch Conversations and Friends
As we age, our conversations and friendships evolve. We no longer gossip about late nights and fleeting romances but instead, we talk about long-term investments, buying houses, and starting families. These changes in our social circle reflect the deepening of our relationships and the maturation of our life experiences.
High Confidence and Hormones
My confidence levels have never been higher, and I feel more secure in my own abilities than I ever did in college or even at 25. Confidence is a crucial ingredient in navigating the challenges of aging gracefully.
The Aging Heart
As we age, the amount of blood pumped by our hearts decreases. By the time most people reach 90, their heart's pumping capacity is halved. This physiological change emphasizes the need for regular check-ups and maintaining good health practices.
Increased Happiness
Interestingly, with age, one may find unexpected sources of happiness. Simple things like breathing can become more cherished. Efforts to connect with family, maintain meaningful friendships, and lead a fulfilling life are more important than ever as we grow older.
Hormones and Pregnancy Cravings
Post-26, my wife's hormones underwent a significant shift, leading her to have a strong desire for pregnancy. This transformation in her body's needs and cravings highlights the unexpected and profound physical and emotional changes that occur with age.
Detachment from Fashion Trends
As one ages, the desire to prioritize practicality over fashion becomes more pronounced. My wife's transition from high heels to Uggs and flats in winter is a good example. However, some things, like confidence, remain timeless and change is inevitable.
Conclusion
Aging is a mixed bag of surprises and realizations. The journey to reaching a grand old age is filled with unexpected challenges and rewards. By embracing these changes and learning from the experiences of others, we can strive to live our best lives, no matter the stage of life we are in.