Notification of Next of Kin Death During the Vietnam War: An Inside Story
The Vietnam War, one of the most tumultuous periods in American history, brought a barrage of challenges and heartbreaks. Notifying families about the death of their loved ones in the service was a critical and delicate process. Military personnel, often Chaplains and military officers, undertook this solemn task to provide both the official notification and spiritual support.
Verification and Notification Team
The notification process began with verification. The military meticulously confirmed the identity of the deceased and ensured all details were accurate before proceeding to inform the family. This step was crucial to avoid any misunderstandings or confusion. Once the information was validated, a team consisting of a military officer and a Chaplain was assigned to deliver the news. The military officer represented the official channel of communication, while the Chaplain provided spiritual guidance and solace during this distressing time.
Timing and Environment
The notification was made as quickly as possible after the confirmation of death. However, the timing was also carefully chosen to ensure the family was in a suitable environment to absorb such tragic news. The military considered the cultural and emotional needs of the family, ensuring the notification was conducted in a respectful and thoughtful manner.
Follow-Up Support
Upon delivering the notification, families were often provided with additional support. This could include information about benefits, funeral arrangements, and counseling services. The follow-up support was not just a one-time interaction but a continued process that helped the family navigate the aftermath of losing a loved one in the service.
Personal Experience: A RuralAlabama Story
One such experience involved Fort Benning, where Chaplains handled the notifications. In a moment of overwhelming pressure, the Chaplains were joined by other military officers to handle the notifications. I was assigned to deliver the news to a young wife who was staying with her parents while her husband was in Vietnam. She had a baby in her arms, and I had to break the news to them that their husband/son/father had been killed.
Ten minutes after I arrived in the house, a dozen neighbors were already outside. Their Pastor arrived shortly thereafter, and an outpouring of love and support was evident. After delivering the message and providing the necessary contact numbers, I prepared to leave. However, upon turning out of the house, I noticed a growing crowd on the porch. One woman seemed to be in charge, organizing a dinner in the park and taking care of other details.
As I stopped at a nearby store for a drink, the storekeeper recognized me and informed me that someone had ordered all the chicken for the dinner barbecue. I couldn’t think of a more fitting tribute and paid for the chicken. I turned in the receipt to the First Sergeant, who simply processed the payment without comment.
Reflections on the Experience
Although I have had worse days in the service, I cannot think of one now. Reflecting on those days, the profound support and love shown by the community truly stand out. The seamless coordination and the remarkable support provided to families during such a difficult time underscored the importance of the process and the human aspect of military service.
In conclusion, the Vietnam War notification process was a deeply compassionate and respectful endeavor. It demonstrated the importance of not just delivering the news but providing comprehensive support to help families navigate the loss of their loved ones in the service.