Navigating the Art of Ordering Drinks in a Crowded Bar

Have you ever found yourself in the predicament of wanting a drink in a bar where every seat is taken? Should you squeeze between patrons to get a bartender's attention, or should you order from the counter flap area where waitstaff come and go? This article explores the etiquette and practical approaches to this common scenario.

Understanding the Layout and Culture of the Bar

When you find yourself in a bar where every seat is taken, the best approach to ordering a drink often depends on the specific layout and culture of the bar. Some bars may have designated areas for ordering without interrupting seated customers, while others might require patrons to merge into the existing crowd.

Counter Flap Area

If the bar has a designated counter flap area where waitstaff come and go, it is usually more appropriate to order from there. This space is often intended for patrons to place their orders without disrupting the seating area. It is important to wait your turn and avoid cutting in line.

Squeezing Between Patrons

In particularly busy bars where there is no clear ordering area, it may be acceptable to squeeze in between patrons, but do so politely. A good approach is to be discreet and avoid drawing attention to yourself. You can say something like:

In general, being polite and respectful of others' space is key. If you're unsure, observe how others are ordering to get insight into the bar's etiquette.

Perfectly Polite Order Placement

Here’s a step-by-step guide for placing your order in a crowded setting:

Stand by the shoulder of someone sitting at the bar and catch the bartender's eye. Hold up your hand, not above shoulder height, and catch the bartender's eye. Immediately and clearly state your order: "Two gin and tonics please, and a glass of the house red." Avoid wasting time with small talk about the possibility of ordering.

Staff Etiquette

Even if you have your choice, it might be better to turn around and walk out in a crowded bar. However, if you must stay, ensure that the staff area is kept clear. If you need to get the bartender's attention, it's best to try and do so over or through the people squatting on the barstools.

Alternative Approaches

Some people prefer to squeeze between the patrons, while others prefer not to disrupt the existing crowd. If you choose to squeeze between stools, aim to be subtle and avoid making others uncomfortable. Make eye contact with the bartender and order once they've acknowledged you.

Staff Ignoring and Rudeness

If you wait near the hatch, the bartender will likely ignore you, and other staff may be rude to you. Ideal practice is to squeeze in-between stools, hoping the bartender understands your desire for their attention rather than that of the seated patrons.

While there isn't a definitive "right" answer, generally, squeezing between patrons is less intrusive than disrupting busy waitstaff. If you are polite and respectful, both options can be considered acceptable depending on the situation.