Navigating Senior Care and Dementia Concerns for a Family with an Autistic Child
Mom turned 67 today and Stepdad is 65. We live together and they help me with my autistic son. Lately, I detect possible dementia, and I get yelled at unprovoked. I cannot afford to move and suffer from mental health issues. What can I do?
Identifying Possible Dementia
Some seniors do exhibit behavior that might suggest dementia, such as moodiness, which my father has also shown. However, yelling at a dependent out of frustration is not a sign of dementia. If you are genuinely concerned about their health status, it is important to have them consult with their doctor and express your concerns. The doctor can conduct a thorough evaluation and offer appropriate guidance.
Medical Care for All Family Members
It is essential to ensure that all your family members, including your parents and autistic son, receive appropriate medical care. For your parents, does this include home care? Have medical professionals diagnosed them during annual physicals? Are you in regular contact with a psychiatrist or psychologist? These professionals can discuss your concerns and suggest possible responses, planning, and resources.
Support Services for Family Members
Are you in contact with local senior services for your parents, and are there autistic support services for your son? Many disability support groups have support programs for seniors and for people with autism. AARP is a useful resource for seniors, and for yourself, contact the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for support, information, and referrals. Planning before a crisis is essential. Your therapist, doctor, and local support groups can assist you. Attempting to manage a crisis during a crisis can be overwhelming, especially if you are living with mental health issues.
Financial Considerations and Support
Is your family financially stable? Your parents could qualify for Social Security, and your son may qualify for Supplemental Security Income (SSI) through Social Security. Taking action and planning can reduce stress and anxiety while providing the necessary information for planning and management of a difficult family situation.
Creating a Safer Home Environment
Getting yelled at, provoked or not, is not acceptable. Your therapist can suggest steps to create a safer and more supportive home for everyone. You mentioned that your son can help. Ensuring that he is supportive in managing your parents and in contacting local services is crucial.
It is almighty early for dementia, and your phrasing suggests concern in two people. Perhaps it is frustration or stress. Consulting with a professional who understands both dementia and autism can offer valuable insights and strategies. Rebooking schedules and responsibilities to better accommodate everyone can also alleviate some of the tension. Your parents are moving into retirement territory, and you may need to reassess your financial contributions to ensure stability.
All the best as you navigate this complex situation.