Navigating Love and Emotions: A Practical Approach to Intimacy

In today’s world, emotional expression and deep-seated feelings are highly emphasized, especially in intimate relationships. However, there are those, like myself, for whom emotional intensity is not a natural inclination. This piece aims to explore the complexities of being someone who finds emotional expression challenging and the beauty in choosing a more practical approach to love and intimacy.

The Challenge of Emotional Expression

Many individuals feel a deep sense of dissatisfaction or even loneliness when their significant other expects and seeks constant emotional expression. It is important to recognize that emotions can take many forms, and what one person feels or expresses may not align with societal norms or expectations. In my own life, my husband often complains that I do not show my feelings or share my emotions. However, the truth is, what I say and what I do often do not match, and I have simply ceased using words to show love because they can be perceived as insincere or meaningless.

A Normal and Practical Life

Despite the challenges, I lead a very normal life. I am a 26-year-old wife and mother. Every day involves taking care of people, whether it be my family, friends, or even strangers. I am consistently kind and gentle, but my emotional expression is more subdued and practical. I choose to be quiet and reserved, embracing both introverted and extroverted moments as needed. As a survivor, I have cultivated resilience and strength, often projecting an image of a "robotic" demeanor, but this is merely an external manifestation of my personal choice to compartmentalize emotions for practical purposes.

Traits and Influences

My emotional distance can be attributed to several factors, including my astrological sign, Capricorn, and my Myers-Briggs personality type, INTP. Capricorns are often described as ambitious, practical, and grounded, which aligns well with my approach to life. The INTP personality, characterized by strategic thinking and a love for logic and analysis, further reinforces my tendency to distance myself emotionally. These traits have been reinforced by my parents: my father raised a strong-willed woman who confronts life’s challenges head-on, and my mother instilled in me the importance of attentiveness and care for others.

Exemplary Actions of Commitment

Perhaps one of the most heartfelt examples of my commitment and practicality is related to my son’s birth. During pregnancy, it was discovered that my son would be born with a slight defect in his abdomen. I allowed myself time to grieve, but as soon as I was ready, I took action. I researched, found a doctor who provided invaluable advice, and prepared for the best possible outcome. On the day of my son’s birth, the doctors were astonished at the condition of the baby, which was far better than they had expected. I continued breastfeeding for over a year, despite the discomfort and logistical challenges. We even lived in our car for a few days to get closer to the hospital and donate my excess milk because it was crucial for my baby’s health. Throughout these moments, I had to be a rock for my son and the medical team, holding him during treatments and countless vein injections. My actions were driven not by emotion, but by a profound sense of responsibility for my child’s well-being.

Achieving Genuine Love

While my approach to love and emotions may be different, I do believe in the value of practical actions and choices. I admire those who are “less emotional” as they are strong, realistic, and focused on practical outcomes. For me, it is essential to wait for someone who genuinely makes me feel love. Authentic love that is not just a product of societal expectations but comes from within. In this context, love is not just about expressing emotions but also about understanding and being understood.

Conclusion

The journey of love and emotions is unique for each individual. While some people thrive on emotional intensity and constant validation, others find practical actions and thoughtful commitments more fulfilling. My approach, driven by a combination of astrological and personality factors, allows me to lead a fulfilling life grounded in responsibility and care. Despite appearances, I am nonetheless deeply committed to nurturing the people around me, whether through practical actions or empathetic understanding. I encourage everyone to find their own path to love and intimacy, embracing their unique approach to expressing and navigating emotional connections.