Navigating Growth: Ensuring You Are the Person You Want to Be

As we grow and change, the question of identity often comes to mind: How can I ensure that the person I am becoming is the one I want to be?

Self-Reflection and Alignment

One effective way to stay in check is through self-reflection. A simple yet powerful practice is to ask yourself, "What would the highest version of myself do right now?" This question helps you align your actions with your aspirations. For example, if you find yourself struggling with a difficult situation, ask yourself what the best version of you would do. This can guide your decisions and ensure that you're moving in the right direction.

Focus on Who You Choose to Be

Instead of being driven by the idea of "who you are," it's more beneficial to focus on who you choose to be. You are constantly adapting and making choices. Today, you can be sure of who you choose to be, but your identity is dynamic and ever-changing. There is no static "who you are"; only a series of choices that shape your journey.

It's important to align your actions with your values. Actions speak louder than words. If your actions do not match your desired state or your values, you are not truly acting in accordance with what you stand for. For instance, a person who says "I hate drama," but consistently creates it, cannot be said to live by their stated values. True alignment comes through consistent behavior that reflects your internal values.

The Code of Life

We all live by a code—a set of moral, ethical rules, and values that guide our lives. Being conscious of this code can help you understand who you truly are or should strive to be. Often, people consciously or unconsciously choose a path that aligns with their internal code. If you are mindful of this, you can develop a deeper understanding of your true self.

Fake It Till You Make It

Another helpful approach is to "fake it till you make it." Your actions and behaviors are the sum of who you are. If you act as if you have already achieved the values you aspire to, you may find that you start to embody them. This can be a powerful motivational tool. Once you have consistently lived your values, you will realize that change has occurred.

Routine and Consistency

Change is a journey, not a destination. It requires repeated alignment of your behavior with your values. There is no lightbulb moment; it's a gradual process. By continuously working towards living your values, you will eventually see and feel the transformation.

Conclusion

Ultimately, ensuring that you are the person you want to be is a lifelong endeavor that involves self-reflection, alignment with your values, and consistent effort. By asking the right questions, being mindful of your actions, and following a path that aligns with your internal code, you can navigate your growth and become the best version of yourself.