Navigating Greetings in December: Etiquette and Respect
In the December month, navigating the etiquette of greetings can be a delicate task, especially in a diverse and multi-cultural society where people celebrate various holidays or observe none at all. This article delves into appropriate approaches to greetings in December to ensure you respect others without causing offense.Respecting Others Without Offending
Starting with the basics, a simple “Hey, how are you?” does the job without imposing any religious or cultural beliefs. The key is to avoid forcing any specific holiday greetings onto others.Many will argue that greeting people with holiday-specific terms might be the socially correct thing to do, but personal comfort is paramount. Some people have Jewish, Christian, or atheist friends and do not wish to complicate their interactions. As one person aptly states, “some people will be cranky, but that’s not you. Just feel the love inside your heart.”
Happy Holidays vs. Merry Christmas
While “Merry Christmas” remains a traditional greeting, the term “Happy Holidays” has gained widespread acceptance as a more inclusive alternative. This phrase is likely to make people of all faiths (or those who do not celebrate any) feel included and appreciated. It captures the spirit of seasonal celebrations and goodwill, without singling out one particular tradition.For those who feel strongly about “Merry Christmas,” a solution is often to mix both phrases. By saying, “I say both Happy Holidays and Merry Xmas,” you demonstrate a willingness to accommodate different preferences. This balanced approach can be especially helpful in social circles with diverse beliefs.
When to Use “Merry Christmas”
The timing of when to use “Merry Christmas” is crucial. It makes more sense to start using this greeting closer to Christmas (the last Sunday before Christmas, for instance), as it aligns with the calendar timing of the holiday. However, this is especially relevant for earlier Christmas celebrations like New Year’s Eve parties or social gatherings before Christmas Day.General etiquette suggests treating others in a way that makes them comfortable. If you know or suspect that the person doesn’t celebrate Christmas, “Merry Christmas” might not be the most appropriate choice. The term “Happy holidays” serves as a more inclusive alternative, encompassing multiple celebrations and traditions.
Dealing with Offended Individuals
It is common for some individuals to express offense when someone wishes them “Happy Holidays” instead of “Merry Christmas.” However, it is important to remember that these people might be looking for an argument. In such cases, a response like “As you wish” can resolve tension and keep the conversation positive.Many people understand that phrases like “Happy holidays” are simply expressions of goodwill. There is no need to force your own traditions onto others. If you get angry or offended when someone uses “Happy Holidays” instead of “Merry Christmas,” it might indicate a need for a more open-minded approach to diversity.