Is Being Social and Solitary Both Considered Normal?
As a very social person, I also find immense joy in spending time alone. This might seem contradictory, but it is, in fact, quite normal.
Engaging in Solitude
For me, solitude is a choice. Whether it's reading a book, writing, or listening to my favorite music, these activities are significant parts of my lifestyle. With my part-time job, I do spend more time alone at home, but it's always on my terms. Watching TV or practicing on my new piano, I immerse myself in tasks that bring me satisfaction. Even my pet cat, Starr, enjoys her time out of confinement, exploring the house and nibbling on boot shoelaces.
A Social Bee, Indeed!
Despite this solitary time, I am incredibly social. I have a natural inclination to converse with everyone I meet, whether it's store clerks or customers. My son, after 43 years, even commented, "Mom, you're so social! You just love people, camaraderie—all the makings of an extrovert."
Reconnecting with My Roots
I recently reconnected with my Catholic faith after 59 years. It's been a journey, and I feel like I've arrived. Attending mass with fellow believers brings a sense of warmth and community. I’ve even met several former high school ESL students here, now part of our social circle. Our upcoming Christmas Eve mass will introduce my son, Lance, and his family to the traditions. It's a special occasion that fills me with joy, and I hope it does the same for them.
Duality in Personalities
It’s essential to recognize that many people navigate both social and solitary spaces comfortably. Intuition and extroversion are not mutually exclusive. Rather, they coexist within a person’s personality spectrum. People often label themselves as one or the other without understanding the complexity of their traits. It's important to embrace a balance that suits one's individual needs.
So, is it unusual to be a very social person but also enjoy spending time alone? Absolutely not. Many people find comfort in both, and it speaks to the diverse nature of human behavior.
Do not let societal expectations dictate your happiness. Embrace your unique blend of social and solitary tendencies, and live your life on your terms.