How Much Should a Man Spend on His First Date?
The question of how much to spend on a first date can often lead to mix-ups. Back in the 1980s, my approach was quite casual. I asked a girl out to dinner, but left it open to her choice where we would go. I figured if I fancied myself attracting her, we could go to a nice spot. But if luck wasn’t on my side, we could opt for something casual like Sizzler. She agreed to leave the decision to me, and I suggested she dress up if I was going to 'get lucky.'
Expensive Versus Impressive
Over the years, I've spent more than $1,000 on first dates, including helicopter rides and luxurious dinners. However, I have no regrets over the money spent. Whether you spend a few dollars or a thousand dollars, the key is the intention and experience of the date, not the amount of money.
Money isn't the only factor. The right location and food can enhance the experience. Whether you opt for a romantic dinner at a fancy restaurant or a casual coffee meet-up, the important thing is to choose a venue that feels right for both of you.
Spending According to the Girl
Depending on the girl, the amount you should spend on a first date can vary. If you're just getting to know someone, a budget of $5 to $10 is typically sufficient. This might be spent on a coffee date or a light drink session. However, if the girl seems open to spending a bit more, you can afford to go a bit higher, perhaps to a seafood restaurant or a cozy nightclub.
I recall a time when a friend brought his wife's girlfriend to a dinner party. I was single, and after a whirlwind evening full of drinks and laughs, she ended up on my lap making out. The next day, we went to a wine and cheese place, and she put her feet on my lap. These experiences taught me that first dates are about initial intimacy and not about how much you spend.
The Role of Money in First Impressions
Because a first date is all about building an initial connection, it's important to focus on the experience rather than the cost. A simple coffee date or a walk in the park can be more meaningful than a fancy meal. For me, the ideal first date is one where you can talk and get to know each other genuinely. This way, you don't waste time and money on pretenses.
Years ago, I spent years trying to impress women, going on extravagant dates to show them that I was worth getting to know. I learned that this approach wasn't necessary. Instead, I should focus on having meaningful conversations and finding mutual interests. This way, both you and the person can discover if there's a real connection.
Lessons from the Past
From my experiences, I've learned that saving money for a first date is a wiser choice. The night could end up being memorable for all the wrong reasons. Instead, opt for a simpler, more natural approach. Talking, laughing, and building a bond without any pressure can lead to a more genuine and rewarding connection.
Ultimately, the cost of a first date isn't as important as the quality of the conversation and connection you share. Keep it simple, focus on the person, and you might just find the right fit without breaking the bank.