Have You Ever Defied the Odds of Love: Letting Go for Their Happiness

Unrequited love and the pain that comes with it are familiar to many. It's a complex and often misunderstood human experience. This article shares my personal journey of breaking up with someone I loved deeply, the lessons I learned, and the impact on my life and relationships.

The Pain of Unrequited Love

Yes, I have been in love with someone who has no feelings for me. After facing this reality, I blocked her from my life entirely, including avoiding her and my mutual friends. For many around me, it was hard to see my love as anything but unconditional. However, the challenge was to separate my feelings from their judgment. I earned the name of 'that BAD guy' who truly loves despite the lack of reciprocation.

Loving Unconditionally and Distantly

When I realized that I still loved her and she lacked any feelings for me, I decided to let her go. It has been more than five years since then, and although I have stayed away, my feelings for her remain. True love, I believe, means that even if a person moves on, you can still find happiness for them. If their happiness involves someone else, I wish them well, even if it stings every time I see her with someone else.

The Selfless Nature of True Love

True love is not just about your feelings but also about the other person's well-being. When she felt bad and guilty, I chose to stay away. I wanted her to be happy and guilt-free. My love for her remains unconditional and selfless. It is a love that transcends time and space. Love, as I understand it, is always present and never fades.

The Sting of Departure

Leaving someone you love can hurt deeply. The heart aches and feels the pang of separation every time you think about them. You care for them, love them, and it is painful to see them leave. You experience the joy and happiness of their presence, only to experience sadness when they are gone. It is a testament to the depth of your love that you still feel it even when they are not by your side.

Understanding Their Pain

The pain of leaving you is not just one-sided. She left me because she couldn't stand seeing me sad. In her decision, she was trying to protect me. I understand and respect her feelings. She asked me to stay away for my own sake. Her decision left her feeling guilty and hurting, just as it stings me now. True love means being willing to sacrifice your own happiness for the sake of the other person's.

Can Two Lovers Still Be Friends?

When the love between two people is deep, it is incredibly difficult to become just friends. Emotional maturity is necessary to navigate this challenging transition. If you still have true feelings for them, it is not advisable to pretend that everything is fine. Being truly in love means that it is nearly impossible to be friends while maintaining that connection.

Learning to Live with Love's Pain

Time is needed to heal and move on. Both now and in the past, I have experienced heartbreak and unrequited love. It took me years to find my footing and move on. The heart, however, always desires what it wants. While true love does not fade, it can become more manageable with time. Learning to live with the pain is an ongoing process.

Second Time Around: A Mature Approach

Being in love for a second time requires courage, trust, and vulnerability. It is a more mature and understanding form of love. While the heart may find it challenging to be vulnerable again, learning to trust and be open once more is essential for truly loving someone.

The Journey of Love: A Saphical Tale

My journey of falling in love again has been a fascinating exploration of love and time. The first time I could love my mom took a while. A crush during third grade was quick, while in college, it took a few hours. My first true love took months of developing feelings. Getting heartbroken and losing mutual "friends" were painful experiences. Ultimately, it takes years to truly fall in love again.

The Final Word: Trust, Vulnerability, and True Love

The heart must find the courage and vulnerability to trust again. Learning to love again after a break is not easy, but it is essential for personal growth and spiritual evolution. May you find happiness in life, no matter who you are with.