From Teenage to Lady Boss: My Journey Through Adulthood
Recalling a specific event at the grocery store illuminated a profound realization. It was a Friday night around 8:30 PM, and I was grabbing green onions for dinner. A group of high school boys filled the aisles, laughing loudly and being obnoxious, a stark contrast to my subdued state. I had spent the day watching my daughter, who woke up early, and juggling work commitments.
Insulted by their behavior, I found myself thinking, 'Why do they have to be so loud in a grocery store?' This internal monologue was clue 2, marking a significant moment of awareness that I was no longer a teenager.
Stopping mid-step, I couldn't help but chuckle. I had unknowingly stopped next to the coffee section, realizing I was out of decaf. Snapping up a bag, I made my way to the self-checkout. The high school boys were also checking out, causing trouble for the poor attendant. This happened too often, and my internal frustration grew palpable. Why could they not leave?
That night, I made a casserole, had dinner with my wife, made a nice pot of decaf, and spent some time on Quora before heading to bed. It was honest and simple validation that told me, 'Yep, not young anymore.'
Another significant moment was when I realized I could no longer bike or hike like I used to on camping trips. My body had changed, and it no longer felt as easy and enjoyable as it once did. This was another clue that I was transitioning from teenage years into a different phase of life.
In 2018, I was told I had passed the eligibility age for a scholarship I had applied for. This had been a culmination of years of hard work and finally having the time and freedom to pursue a dream. Yet, I was informed that I was too old. This was clue 3, highlighting how society often perceives age as a limitation.
Another clue was when I stopped dancing and appreciating music at live shows. The concerts that once brought me joy and energy now seemed more like aerobic exercises. I became self-conscious about my rhythm, which negatively impacted my enjoyment. This loss of excitement was clue 4, indicating a shift in my emotional and mental state.
The financial aspect marked another turning point. Ever since salary credits began appearing on my mobile, I became more aware of my financial planning. This was clue 5, as managing personal finances became a significant responsibility.
Reflecting on these moments, I realized that my perception of myself had evolved. My teenage years did not emphasize the understanding that one must adapt to circumstances independently. Now, I am more decisive and have developed better habits. I can make independent decisions and am less dependent on external validation. I am on a path to becoming a 'Lady Boss' - a strong, independent woman who does not require validation from a man.
Moreover, I have come to the realization that my knowledge and the love for learning are the only things I can trust and rely on. This trust in my own capabilities is a significant aspect of having grown out of my teenage years.
In conclusion, my journey from teenage to adult highlights the importance of self-awareness and personal growth. These realizations affirm that I am no longer a teenager and am well on my way to becoming a confident, independent, and empowered individual.