From Restriction to Freedom: How Independence has Improved My Life

My life has undergone a significant transformation as I have gained independence. Growing up, my upbringing was rather restrictive, with strict rules enforced by my brown parents. These limitations, while challenging, have ultimately contributed to my growth and resilience.

Restrictions and Survival

Our household was quite different from what you might imagine. We had internet access, but it was enabled only when absolutely necessary, and only for educational purposes. The only television in the house was a rare luxury, with a strict 2-hour limit on viewing time, and this was a privilege that was often revoked. We did have a school tablet, which was ill-equipped for the internet or video content, let alone downloading games. Our entertainment options were limited to books, a rare treat.

My relationship with my siblings is closer today due to the time spent together, although some of these interactions have diminished over time.

The Turning Point

The most restrictive period in my life occurred between the ages of 14 and 16. Before and after this time, there were fewer strict limitations—such as a ban on social interactions and sleepovers. However, this specific period stands out as the most intense.

Now, at 17 and soon to turn 18, I find myself in what I would call a “rebel phase.” The individuals who once controlled various aspects of my life are now too old or unimportant for me to seriously consider their opinions. Their past threats and restrictions have become trivial and even amusing, as they pale in comparison to the newfound freedom I experience now. I have severed all contact with them, both online and offline, ensuring that we live in the same house, but remain separate entities.

Reflections on Parenting

The experience of growing up under such restrictions has made me critically evaluate the principles of child-rearing. Good parenting, in my opinion, is not about imposing control over every aspect of a child's life or stepping in the way of growth. Instead, it's about guiding and protecting them, showing them how to navigate the world responsibly. Attempts to control every detail can lead to resentment and a desire for freedom. In my case, this period of rebellion is driven by the need to reclaim my autonomy and happiness.

Since gaining this independence, my relationships with my parents, especially my father and grandparents, have diminished significantly. The lack of interaction is a direct result of the freedoms I've gained. Now, I consider these years my best, characterized by newfound happiness and the freedom to be my genuine self with those who truly make me happy.