Experiences of Interaction with Autistic People: Insights from an Autistic Individual
As an autistic individual, my experiences with other autistic people have been overwhelmingly positive, in stark contrast to interactions with neurotypical (NT) people. The diversity of the autistic spectrum means that experiences can vary widely, but there is a common thread of understanding and mutual respect, especially when it comes to social communication.
Understanding the Spectrum
Autism is a highly diverse spectrum, and it is important to recognize that everyone on the spectrum is unique. What works well with one person might not work with another. For me, interacting with other autistic individuals is less strenuous and more natural, as we both view social interactions as an intellectual activity.
One of the key aspects that stands out in interactions with autistic individuals is the lack of miscommunication. We tend to communicate in a straightforward and literal manner, without assuming hidden meanings. If there is a possibility of a double meaning, we simply ask for clarification, and this approach does not offend or frustrate us. This makes interactions less stressful and more enjoyable, as there is no constant guessing or concern about whether our communication is effective.
Less Misunderstanding and More Comfort
When interacting with non-autistic individuals (NTs), I often face instances of miscommunication. This is because NTs might assume subtext or social nuances that I do not pick up on, leading to a build-up of confusion or misunderstandings. Autistic friends, on the other hand, are generally more welcoming of infodumping and special interest infodumps. We appreciate each other's enthusiasm and share in our excitement, making our conversations more rewarding and less inhibited.
Another significant benefit of interacting with other autistic people is the lack of the need for volume control. We do not worry about the social dynamics of "turn-taking" or feeling the pressure to fit into a certain conversation flow. This freedom is a breath of fresh air, as it allows us to express ourselves fully without the burden of social expectations.
The mutual understanding extends to accepting different communication styles. For example, meeting a young man who was disabled but not autistic, I noticed he behaved in a way that matched typical non-autistic behavior, including the tendency to introduce himself and shake hands. However, my preference to not shake hands was respected, and he managed my refusal with kindness and understanding.
Clicking with Autistic Companions
Sharing aspects of the same spectrum with my boyfriend has been a delightful experience. We routinely finish each other's sentences and complement our psychological understanding, making our relationships and interactions incredibly smooth. The shared understanding of the spectrum creates a strong bond and a mutual respect that is often lacking in interactions with NTs.
In conclusion, my experiences with other autistic individuals have been profoundly positive, characterized by a sense of mutual understanding, absence of miscommunication, and welcoming of shared interests. Autism, while a spectrum, can offer a unique and enriching form of connection and interaction that is often challenging to achieve with neurotypical individuals. My journey with autism has taught me that there is strength in understanding and embracing the diversity of human experience.