Evolution, Morality, and the Source of Selfish Human Behavior

In the chaos of human interactions, the question often arises: why do people act in ways that seem selfish and alarming? The root of such behaviors can be traced back to fundamental aspects of existence, such as evolution and morality. In this article, we delve into the origins of human behavior, with a focus on how these systems shape our actions and relationships.

Understanding the Disturbance: The Role of 'Ought' and 'Should'

When we perceive someone's behavior as disturbing, it's often because they have gone against certain norms or expectations. A key concept here is the idea of 'ought' and 'should.' For example, if someone borrows your money, they ought to repay it. Refusal to do so is unsettling. But what makes this unwelcome behavior so disturbing? The answer lies in the moral framework by which we judge such actions. If this framework didn't exist, there would be no sense of disturbance.

The basis of 'ought' and 'should' is morality. Morality is the set of principles relevant to the distinction between right and wrong behavior. Without this moral structure, society would be a myriad of conflicting social constructs, unable to judge actions as right or wrong. This needs a higher authority or a supreme being, such as God, to provide a consistent standard by which we can evaluate behavior. Without this divine judge, there would be no metaphysical basis for morality, only cultural relativism.

Evolution: An Anti-Moral Force

From an evolutionary perspective, morality can be seen as a hindrance. Natural selection favors traits and behaviors that increase an individual's survival and reproductive success. In this context, acting selfishly can sometimes lead to success. Evolution doesn't care about moral rules; it only sees who is more fit to survive and reproduce. Therefore, if a person borrows money and never repays it, they might still succeed, as there will always be 'suckers' ready to give them more. This natural process makes certain behaviors non-disturbing from an evolutionary standpoint.

Deepening the Conversation: Self-Reflection and Acceptance

While it might be tempting to point fingers at others and call them selfish, it's important to question our own behaviors and motivations first. The concept of being self-righteous or accusing others prevents us from truly understanding and improving ourselves. The path to change begins with introspection, not outward judgment.

Consider a scenario where your best friend has stopped spending as much time with you. It's natural to feel hurt or confused, but understand that your friend's interests might have shifted or they might be dealing with other life challenges. Accepting this reality is crucial for moving forward.

Ultimately, in the grand scheme of life, the world doesn't revolve around you or any one individual. The object of true care and connection is divine: God. If you've lost sight of this divine connection, seek solace and guidance. Reflect on the following prayer:

All glories to Sri Guru and Gauranga
 All glories to Krishna 
 Hare Krishna

Thank you for reading this exploration of human behavior and its underlying forces. May this reflection lead you towards a deeper understanding of yourself and others.