Email Invitations to Weddings: Do They Mean Anything?
Introduction
I've never received an email invitation to a social event, and none of my friends and acquaintances would be so impersonal. However, times are changing, and so are the ways we receive wedding invitations. Email invitations are becoming more common, leading to confusion and misinterpretation. Is an email invitation a genuine gesture or a formality?
Are Email Invitations Genuine?
The answer depends on the couple. For some, a formal email is just a means of communication, while others may use it as a simple way to send out invitations without the formality of a physical card. Kyle, a couple we know, only invited a select few and then experienced a last-minute no-show. Despite the small surprise, they hosted an informal reception with a BBQ and a DJ, which turned out to be not a big deal emotionally but did initially hit them hard emotionally.
Why Choose Email Invitations?
Some couples prefer the convenience and modernity of email invitations. For instance, Karen and David, who had been together for several years, found that gifts were less necessary and more of a thoughtful gesture, not a sign of their status. However, not everyone appreciated this. A woman considered a friend did not attend the wedding, then casually threw a twenty-dollar bill at Karen at a lunch meeting. The relationship never recovered.
Impersonal Invitations and Future Implications
More importantly, if someone you consider a friend consistently ignores email invitations, it may be a sign of their true intentions. A former supervisor who was considered a friend, showed up saying she was traveling from out of state but later skipped the event after her boyfriend’s family also invited her to another occasion, not sending either a card or a gift. Such behavior can hurt relationships deeply.
When Email Invitations Are More Casual
Sometimes, couples find a more casual style suits their weddings better. For example, Karen and David invited coworkers verbally, which was a nice touch but not mentioned to Karen. Additionally, some people invite everyone and their sister-in-law, usually hoping for good gifts. There was a young woman who demanded payment for her attendance at a wedding, even though Karen and David had attended her high school graduation and wedding, and given her a gift for her baby showers.
How to Respond to an Email Invitation
If you're unsure about the sincerity of an email invitation, it's perfectly okay to reply with a similar formality. Being direct about your intentions can clarify misunderstandings. In today's increasingly digital world, it's also acceptable to wish the couple congratulations via email if you're unsure or unable to attend. The key is to be honest and true to your feelings.
Cost and Convenience
Lastly, some couples may opt for email invitations for practical reasons, such as cost. If it's a backyard wedding, an email invitation could be sufficient, especially if the couple's finances are limited. Email invitations are also convenient and can include save-the-dates and bridal shower invitations to keep guests informed. However, if there are no save-the-dates or bridal shower email invitations, it might be a hint to send gifts or money.
Ultimately, the decision to attend a wedding invitation, whether it's an email or a traditional card, comes down to personal preference and the courtesy of the couple. If you're invited, go with your heart. If you're unsure, a direct response can clear up any ambiguity.