The Tortuous Cycle of Emotional Abuse
Reflecting back, it can be hazy and disorienting to see the evidence of emotional abuse and manipulation by a narcissist. But the question lies not only in seeing the reality but believing it. This article delves into the concept of Stockholm Syndrome and explores the steps to breaking free, healing, and finding a new life.
Understanding the Trauma Bond
When trapped and trauma bonded in a relationship with a narcissist, it can be incredibly difficult to perceive the truth. Even if you suspect that the person is not being loyal or honest, you may still want to believe they are who you think they are. This is because the narcissist creates an alternate reality, which you become attuned to.
Narcissist Manipulation Techniques
Narcissists employ a range of manipulative tactics, including gaslighting, which makes you question your own sanity. They create an illusion in your mind and rewire your brain, training you to expect very little and to be appreciative of whatever is given.
During an encounter with a narcissist, one might receive a picture showing them with another person, and instead of addressing the issue, they invalidate the victim's feelings, turn the blame back on the victim, and deny wrongdoing even when there is proof. This is a common tactic to instill fear and control.
For example, if you were out of town for the weekend with friends, a narcissist might send a picture of themselves with another girl. Instead of discussing the reason for the encounter, they will invalidate your feelings and redirect the conversation, making you feel responsible for their reaction. This is done to ensure the victim never leaves again, out of fear of similar treatment.
Breaking Free from the Trauma Bond
Breaking free from a narcissist is not an easy task, but it is necessary for personal growth and healing. Once you escape, the trauma bond begins to break, and healing can start.
Healing and Rebuilding
After escaping, it is crucial to focus on yourself. Rebuild your foundations, establish healthier boundaries, and start to trust yourself again. Find new seeds to plant, nurture, and grow. Life can become marvelously blooming once you are free from the Narcissist's secret garden.
Future Outlook
Once you have started the healing process, it is time to look ahead. Stop looking back and start looking at the future. The future is bright, and you need shades to avoid being blinded by the harsh reality. Gaze away from the dark sun of the past and see the potential that lies ahead.
Embracing the New Life
After acknowledging and healing from the narcissist's manipulation, you can start to see yourself clearly for the first time in a long while. This self-awareness can help you spot patterns of similar behavior and avoid falling into the same traps.
By stepping away and focusing on your personal growth, you can move forward and avoid the pain and betrayal that comes with emotional abuse. Continue to grow and heal, and you will be better equipped to recognize and avoid these situations in the future.