Biblical Perspectives on Engaged Living Arrangements
The question of engaging in cohabitation while engaged is one that has intrigued theologians and clergy for centuries. The Bible provides specific insights into the moral and ethical considerations surrounding this practice. One of the most well-known instances is the story of Joseph and Mary, whose actions during their engagement offer us a wealth of insights.
Joseph and Mary: A Biblical Case Study
According to the Gospel accounts, Joseph and Mary were engaged, meaning they were legally bound to each other in marriage. However, the text does not explicitly mention whether they were living separately or together before Mary conceived Jesus. Many scholars argue that Joseph and Mary likely avoided living together due to the strict social norms of the time.
The virgin birth was introduced to address the possibility that Jesus might have been born of an illegitimate union. It is often suggested that Joseph was planning to divorce Mary quietly due to her pregnancy, but an angel appeared to him to inform him that the conception was by the Holy Spirit and that he should accept her without fear. This event underscores the importance of fidelity and the sanctity of marriage even during the engagement period.
Biblical Teachings Against Cohabitation
From a biblical perspective, cohabitation during engagement is generally viewed as sinful. The Bible describes marriage as a holy union, and any form of pre-marital sexual activity is considered a violation of this sanctity. Romans 6:13 in the New International Version (NIV) states:
"Do not offer any part of yourself to sin as an instrument of wickedness, but rather as those who have been brought from death to life and offer every part of yourselves to him as an instrument of righteousness."
This verse emphasizes the importance of living a life committed to righteousness and avoiding behavior that could lead to sin.
Consequences of Violating Biblical Teachings
The story of Joseph, Mary, and Jesus offers a stark reminder of the consequences of violating biblical teachings on living together during engagement. In Luke 2:4-7, we see testimony to the societal expectations and customs of the time:
"4 Joseph also went up from the town of Nazareth in Galilee to Judea to the city of David, which is called Bethlehem, because he was of the house and family line of David. 5 He went there to be registered with Mary, who was engaged to him and was pregnant. 6 While they were there, the time came for her to give birth. 7 And she gave birth to her firstborn son and wrapped him in cloths and placed him in a manger, because there was no guest room available for them."
In this passage, we see the impact of societal norms and expectations. When Joseph and Mary arrived at Bethlehem, they found no room in the inn. As a result of Mary's pregnancy, they were shunned and had to give birth in a stable. However, after their marriages, they were taken in by others, highlighting the social ostracization that could occur.
Conclusion
Throughout the Bible, living together while engaged is not explicitly forbidden, but the prevailing culture and teachings strongly discourage it. The story of Joseph, Mary, and Jesus serves as a powerful reminder of the importance of maintaining a pure and holy relationship during the engagement period. The Bible emphasizes the integrity of both individuals and the significance of respecting the sanctity of marriage from the very beginning through faithful behavior and adherence to moral principles.