How I Responded When I Saw My Ex Cheating
Life can throw you curveballs that shake your foundation, and dealing with your ex cheating is one of the most challenging situations you can face. My personal experience still resonates with me years later, and I am glad to share my story and offer advice that could help others in similar predicaments.
Eviction 1: The Naked Escape
One fateful night, I had gone to bed, but the sound of noise in the living room woke me up. I quietly walked to the living room and observed my roommate and my ex-husband, who were in a compromising situation. The scene was unforgettable; my ex-husband was on the couch naked, and my roommate straddled him as he undressed. Enraged yet amused, I decided to make a point.
I stood silently for a minute, picked up their scattered clothes, his cowboy boots, and threw them out of the balcony without saying a word. Finally, I made my presence known. Starting with an expletive, I shouted, 'Hey! What do you think you are doing?' This startled both of them, giving them a moment to process the situation before I ordered them to vacate the premises. The naked man, who stood 6'5", actually ran out the door without his clothes, barefoot, and in the dark. I snapped a photo of his running form, which I still have saved as a memento.
I addressed my roommate, "Do me a favor and get a good night's sleep, I'll deal with everything tomorrow!" Little did I know how this would change both our lives.
Eviction 2: A False Sense of Resolution
The next day, I went into work with a cheerful disposition, fully realizing the implications of the situation. I had the locker room to myself when she left that day. In a rare moment of calm, I said, 'See ya at the office!' to her. You see, we worked at the same office.
Over lunch, I called in sick, bought some packing materials, and packed her belongings. I left her things outside the front door and waited for the locksmith to change the locks. In a burst of indignation, I penned a letter, taped it to the top of the boxes, and wrote a personal eviction notice. This was a temporary solution until she found a place closer to the office. Initially, it seemed like the right move, but in looking back, it was a big mistake.
Lessons Learned from Eviction 3 and 4
Unfortunately, my roommate did not respond well to my actions. She contacted the office, not me, and things escalated. In the office, she spread lies, claiming that I had no reason to evict her. I chose to rise above it and remain silent. However, her actions were far from silent – by creating a toxic work environment, she made numerous mistakes and eventually got herself fired.
Four weeks later, I finalized my divorce. The first three evictions had healed my heart, teaching me an invaluable lesson: when dealing with cheaters, decisive actions are crucial.
The Happy Ending
Today, I reflect on these events with a sense of relief and happiness. I am married to the love of my life, and together for 32 years. These experiences taught me the importance of standing firm in adversity and the strength of my current relationship.
If you find yourself in a similar situation, my advice is to consider a loud, decisive action. Release any feelings of guilt for taking care of yourself. Life is too short to be held back by drama and injustice.