An Ethereal Picnic: Honoring the Past in Cemeteries

Heres an idea: Pick your favorite poets; find out where they are buried; have a picnic at their grave; bring a book of their poems and recite them. It could be inspiring for you. People do this all the time at poets' graves, such as Emily Dickinson's in Amherst, Massachusetts.

Living in my New England town for over 20 years, I have been fortunate enough to experience the unique charm of local cemeteries. Once, my sister and I decided to stroll through the Congregational churchyards cemetery, bringing our coffees from across the street. To our delight, we saw a multitude of familiar family names etched on the stones—the actual founding families of the town. Many stones bore the testament to generations marrying within the community, indicating a tight-knit social structure. These families must have endured numerous hardships, carving out a life from nothing and clinging to the faith of God and each other.

Cemeteries Through Time

Cemeteries have undergone significant transformations since their original inception. The earliest cemeteries were likely treated with a profound sense of reverence and fear, as our understanding of mortality was limited. In early human civilization, burial sites have been found dating back tens of thousands of years, where the deceased was laid to rest in a reposeful position, adorned with jewelry and flowers. This is evidence that even early man had some knowledge about loss and remembrance.

As societies developed and populations grew, the practice of burial evolved from temporary burial sites to more structured cemeteries. Over time, the concept of the final resting place became more formalized, incorporating and reflecting the societal values, customs, and beliefs of the time. In many cultures, cemeteries have become places of both remembrance and continued community.

The Modern Cemetery Picnic

Yes, I mean for you or you and someone you care about—maybe a friend, a spouse, or a close family member. Not a group of four with noisemaking toys. While a quiet picnic at a relative's grave with family and some reminiscing and laughter is equally meaningful, the idea of poetry and reflection can elevate the experience.

I know people who park at the cemetery and hold their lunch or read. The cemetery I frequent often has people biking, walking, and walking their dogs. It is essential to be respectful of other visitors and maintain a quiet demeanor. A quiet picnic is unlikely to disturb anyone, and there are ample open spots where one can enjoy their time without stepping on someone's grave.

Cemeteries are also excellent places for contemplation and personal reflection. The gravestones and the stories they tell can be a source of inspiration and catharsis. Seeking solitude amidst the rows of stones can provide a sense of peace and a deeper understanding of the past. Whether it's a quiet poem recited among the graves or a reflective walk, cemeteries offer a unique and serene environment for honoring the past.

Key Takeaways:

Honor the past by visiting cemeteries. Engage in a quiet picnic at a grave, bringing a book of poems. Respect other visitors and maintain a quiet atmosphere. Cemeteries provide a place for reflection and inspiration.

So, the next time you feel a pang of melancholy or a desire for introspection, consider visiting a local cemetery for a quiet picnic. You might just find the inspiration you need.