Adapting to New Eating Habits: A South Indian Tamil Family's Journey

I belonged to a South Indian Tamil family, growing up in a bustling city. The culture of my upbringing and my family’s were quite different. However, when I married into a South Indian Tamil family in another city, the differences were even broader. The taste buds and cooking methods were entirely different, which presented a unique challenge for me.

Priorities and Cultural Differences

When I moved in with my in-laws as part of a joint family, I was given the responsibility to adapt to their way of cooking. Initially, I was told to not add more of that and this, which was a constant advice from my in-laws. This entry marked the beginning of my adaptation process, a journey that took some time to comprehend and execute.

Cravings and Initial Adjustments

At the start, my body and taste buds craved for the flavors and curries of my family. I missed the delicate balance of spices and the rich flavors of my mother's cooking. However, this craving gradually turned into irritation when I saw the different techniques and ingredients that my in-laws used in their cooking. The routine of being reminded to adhere to their preferences became annoying.

Gradual Adaptation and Acceptance

Over the years, adapting to the new environment and cooking methods came with many setbacks and struggles. Slowly, I realized the importance of being flexible and willing to learn. My initial resistance and irritation eventually gave way to a peaceful acceptance. Today, after 10 years of living with my in-laws, I have adapted to their culinary methods. The adjustment has been challenging, yet rewarding.

My mother's curries, known for their distinct blend of spices, have become too spicy or salty for my taste. This realization made me appreciate the dietary adjustments I had to make. I learned to appreciate the use of specific herbs and spices that were characteristic of my in-laws' cuisine. The process of transitioning from one set of flavors to another was not easy, but it helped me develop a more nuanced understanding of South Indian Tamil cuisine.

Adapting to new eating habits and cooking methods after marriage can be a significant challenge. It involves sacrifices, flexibility, and a willingness to learn. The experience of living in a joint family and being exposed to different cooking traditions has been transformative. It has not only broadened my culinary horizons but also strengthened my bonds with my in-laws. Understanding and appreciating cultural diversity is a crucial aspect of building a harmonious and loving family unit.