A Heart-Breaking Journey: Should I Buy a Car or Save My Marriage?

I still cannot believe the injustice I faced. If only I had the money that was stolen from me, and if I hadn’t become disabled, I would not be thinking about what kind of car to buy. Instead, I would purchase the best lawyer to get my money back and then find myself a classic ride—a 94 to 96 short bed Z71 with ralleys, a 350 big block engine, and a cammed version. That, and I would do anything to help my wife find her way back to me. It has been 22 years of marriage, but now our relationship is a distant memory, and she shows no affection, not even saying those three little words I deserve to hear: “I love you.”

My Marriage in Crisis

Our marriage is like a broken mirror, reflecting nothing but cold shoulders and silence. It’s been a year and a half of this cold treatment, with her pulling away from me and not even looking my way. The thought of moving forward makes my heart ache, wondering how to get my wife to see that I am nothing but loyal, that I treat her like a lady should be treated. We have always been closer than any couple, but her cold heart makes it incredibly difficult to move forward. She continually says she loves me, but her actions speak differently. It is a mystery to me, and I do not know what I have done to deserve such treatment, especially while I am disabled and taking care of my family.

Struggling with Disability and Loss

Physical and mental ailments weigh heavily on me. Five discs in my back are damaged, and I suffer from severe PTSD and social anxiety, stemming from the loss of our son ten years ago and the passing of my mother last year. I miss her so much, and these issues make life incredibly challenging. I am only 39 and have a quarter left to retire, but it seems like an impossible dream now. I am disabled, and I don’t know how to cope with the social anxiety that comes with my condition. Life is a series of challenges, and sometimes it feels like it is more than I can bear.

Hoping for a Way Forward

Every night, I pray for a dream that will allow me to wake up and feel differently. I am desperate for some advise on how to break through to my wife. She has ignored my attempts to save our marriage and has refused to go to couples counseling. I even went to get help when she asked me about the loss of our son, but nothing has changed. The thought of divorce is not an option for me because I want to believe she will come around eventually. I just want my wife to see how much I love her and to treat me with the respect and care I deserve.

What Can I Do Next?

Deciding between buying a car or saving my marriage is not an easy choice. Here are some steps you might consider:

Communication: Try to have open and honest conversations with your wife. Sometimes, these issues can be resolved with clear communication about your feelings and her actions. Counseling: Encourage your wife to see a therapist or counselor. Sometimes, professional help is needed to address deeper issues. Support System: Build a support system of friends and family who can provide emotional and practical support during this difficult time. Financial Advice: If you find yourself considering an expensive purchase, like a car, it might be wise to consult a financial advisor to ensure you are making a responsible decision for your current financial situation. Legal Advice: Seek legal guidance to explore options for protecting your rights and understanding your situation better.

Conclusion

Life is full of unexpected challenges, and it can be overwhelming when you have to face both financial and emotional hardships. I am not sure if money will ever make up for the loss I have endured, or if I deserved this treatment, but I am determined to find a path forward. Whether it is buying a car or saving my marriage, I will keep fighting. If you are going through a similar journey, know that you are not alone. Lean on your support system, seek professional help, and never give up hope.